Holiday Stess? Holiday Anger?? Bahhhh Humbug!!!

The media often portrays the holiday season as a festive and fun time, free from troubles. In reality, however, stress and family problems may escalate when the season arrives. Real people and families are not perfect, so don’t assume your holiday will be like the ones you see in movies or on TV. If you can manage your expectations, you may have a more enjoyable experience this season.

In this article I will give you some tips to help you manage your anger and stress during the holidays.

1. Stick to a normal schedule: Do your best to stick to your regular family routine. Changing your schedule to fit in holiday activities and traveling can be tough on you and your kids, so try to keep things as normal as possible. Try to keep bedtimes and mealtimes the same even when you’re away from home.
2. Express your feelings and ask for help when needed: Let others know just how you are feeling by sharing it with them in a positive way. Ask for help from family and friends when overwhelmed. Being assertive with your communication styles will help you be less stressed and angry.
3. Know your limits: Learn to say “no” if you are overwhelmed, need to relax or rest. Listen to your body and take care of yourself.
4. Don’t try to be a perfectionist: Nobody’s perfect!! So if you can’t find the perfect gift for that someone doesn’t take it personal. Trying to create a “picture perfect” holiday gathering can really “sock it you” in the stress department.
5. Remember what makes the Holiday Season special for you and make sure you focus on that: Holidays are meant to be a time of sharing and togetherness.
6. Do some realistic planning: Get organized, set a budget, make a list, and remember to use a calendar.
Take a break: With everything going on during the holidays and the busyness it brings remember to relax!! Try a hot bath, sit down with a good book and a cup of tea, dim the lights and look at the lights on the Christmas tree, write down what you are thankful for, reconnect with some friends or family, and whatever else could be a helpful way for you to relax.
7. Be budget conscious: Overspending during the holidays can make the season less enjoyable for you and bring unnecessary stress. Get creative if you do not have a large budget for example, bake cookies, put together certificates such as 2 hours or babysitting or washing a friends car and remember it is the thought that counts!
Remember to say “thank-you”: A simple thank you card is something that is much appreciated and can help you remember to be thankful for your blessings.
I hope that these tips are helpful for you. Having a wonderful, enjoyable, less stressful holiday season!!!

Karina Narduzzi B.A., C.A.M.F.
Positive Solutions Anger Management and Executive Coaching
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